November 2011
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Yet Another Kiri Bloggish Thing: Dear everybody who helps make/post porn with trans people: →
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Dear everybody who helps make/post porn with trans people:
- Stop third-gendering us. Trans women are women. Trans men are men.
- Stop reducing us to our genitals. Trans women are women even if they have penises. Trans men are men even if they have vaginas. Nonbinary people are whatever they say they are regardless of genitals.
- If you’re concerned that people looking for cis porn will run across trans porn accidentally, don’t misgender us in order to “resolve” this. Instead, educate your users as to what “cis” and “trans” mean, and set up your search terms accordingly.
- Most trans women do not actually “trick” straight guys into having sex with them, because we know very well that that could get us killed. Please quit spreading that meme.
- If the first place you heard a trans-related term was in mainstream porn, it’s probably not a good term. For example, “sh*m*le”, “t-girl”, and “dick-chick” are all pretty awful terms. (“Ladyboy” can be correct when referring to kathoey (if the individual ones you’re shooting/posting are okay with that term), but not when referring to transfeminine people generally.)
- Saying “it’s just porn” doesn’t actually make these things less damaging. In fact, it reinforces the idea that trans people (trans women in particular) who do porn are somehow unworthy of respect. I hope you don’t actually believe that.
I’m sure that this will fall on covered ears for the most part, but I know that at least some folks who make/post porn are trying to respect us, so. Yeah.
“I believe we write our own stories, and each time we think we know the end- we don’t. Perhaps luck exists somewhere between the world of planning, the world of chance, and in peace that comes from knowing that you just can’t know it all. You know, life’s funny that way. Once you let go of the wheel, you might end up right where you belong.”
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Novel
So I’ve been bad off lately emotionally. But I do love telling my work to people. My writing, even if I suck at it. I spent a few hours talking about one of my novels to a friend and she really enjoyed it apparently. Was laughing, giggling, and awwwing as I told her this story, we got about halfway through. And she said it should be a movie. That it reminds her of something on par with avatar. That it needs to be seen. She wants to run the story by her brother who is a director I guess. I dunno. I’m about halfway through the rewrite. Just revising stuff, squaring things away.
I told her I was stuck on the scandalous kiss scene. And by scandalous I mean incredibly taboo for the USA culture but this is an alien world that the story takes place on. And there is a very very brief but steamy kiss that happens between 2 brothers about halfway through the book. I was debating on if it should be removed or not because of the audience perhaps not being comfortable with it. Having told her every secret that was going on in the book she was like “no, you have to keep that in there”.
I dunno that I’m completely comfortable with my idea being run by someone with the power to take it. I’ve been ripped off before. And I haven’t tried to publish anything since I got cut out of the deal and my book aired on tv without my name being on it at all and never having seen a penny for it. That shit happens. And I’m not eager for it to happen again. I do so love this story. And I am good at plot lines and characterization even if I’m lousy at the writing process itself.
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Sick
I feel so sick today. I dunno what happened, but its knocked me on my ass. I am gonna lay down for a little while. But I put something in queue for my page and for T*S so there may not be a lot today but there will at least be something new.
