So Friday afternoon someone asked me the weirdest question when they realized I was trans. She signed “becoming a boy or a girl?” The fact that it wasn’t obvious was an interesting insight. Clearly she wasn’t sure of my birth sex. So it told me that my original birth status was not clear to everyone which is good because it means I’ve managed to look more male than before. However, it also means that where I stand right now is that I don’t look male or female or perhaps I look both. For me, personally, I feel like I get perceived as male maybe 30% to 40% of the time. Really not a lot. And I feel like if people aren’t sure, they default to female as the safe choice.